Are you really going crazy?

Are you really going crazy?

CLEARWATER, Fla (Ivanhoe Newswire/WTVM) – Karen Biscup describes her house and herself as a "chaotic mess!"

"You don't want to tell people too much because it makes you sound like a crazy person," Biscup says.

Suffering in silence has meant low self-esteem for her.

She finally knows why she's felt this way. She has attention deficit disorder. Now medication is helping her get through the day.

"I just view the world more calmly," says Biscup.

Four million women have ADD or ADHD and don't even know it, according to the National Center for Gender Issues and ADHD.  Mental Health Counselor Deborah Day says it's a state of constant disarray.

"It's real and definitely not make believe," Deborah Day, M.A., says. "It's within the brain and so there's really a chemical thing going on."

Psychotherapist Tina Tessina, PhD, says the empty nest time is a particularly hard time when women feel like they're losing control of their children.

"One sleepless night is not a problem. Ten in a row is a big problem," Dr. Tessina explains.

Many sleepless nights not only come from worrying about the kids, many people lie awake thinking about work as well.

"Nothing at work is important enough to do that to yourself, so you need to know how to shut it off," Dr. Tessina says.

First, don't use your brain as a memo pad. Write it down. If there's something you can do before bed to ease your mind, just do it. Most importantly, stop comparing yourself to everyone else.

"You have to know how to soothe yourself, how to encourage yourself, and how to keep building your sense of self so that you can stay on an even keel," Dr. Tessina explains.

If you fidget all the time, find it hard to sit still at meetings, or interrupt a lot, you may have a form of ADD or ADHD.

"For the ones that don't know when they come in to me, it's so freeing for them to find out, that there's a name for what they have and there's a way to get better," says Day.

The first step in addressing attention deficit disorder is behavioral interventions such as list making and file systems. If that doesn't work, medication is often needed.

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